October 12, 2011
Have you ever dated someone who was such a mess that you felt you should warn others? Maybe you ended things with your girlfriend, but you realize she would be great for someone else and want to let others know how cool she is. Or perhaps you want to find out what rumors your skeezy ex is spreading around about you! Well, here's your chance.
ExRated.com is a new site aimed at reviewing ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends for all the world to see. Similar to something along the lines of RateMyProfessors.com, ExRated lets users review their exes in 140 characters or less. The reviewer must fill out a questionnaire about his/her relationship with the person being rated, which includes the level of their relationship and the ability to offer tips on getting along with this person and who he/she would be best suited for. The ex gets an overall rating of 1 to 5 stars, plus scores in sub-categories. Despite having to provide this detailed information, the reviewer has the option to post about someone anonymously.
The site even goes so far as to allow you to connect with someone else who has reviewed your ex (your "exfriend"), creating a social network of sorts for exes of exes -- if that's the kind of thing you like.
If you're looking for some dirt on a girl you're interested in or want a few background details on a guy you're about to go out with, type in his/her name and see what reviews pop up. Or search for yourself and see what your exes are saying about you. The only down side to this is, if someone is totally bashing you, there's no way for you to rebuttal. Unless, of course, you anonymously post about yourself or have a friend leave a glowing review.
There also aren't a lot of standards or rules for what can be posted, the Huffington Post notes. But ExRated's creator, Tom Padazana, told HuffPo that the 140-character limit should prevent people from "airing their dirty laundry." Yeah, because being cruel requires so many words. Although, you can flag posts, which I have a feeling probably happens a lot.
I'm not sure how useful this site will be, considering similar sites based on unfounded claims by anonymous posters don't tend to do well. The Huffington Post read my mind when it mentioned the long-gone Juicy Campus, which gave an open forum for juvenile college gossip ("Lauren makes Easy DZ's look like prudes!").
While the occasional positive remarks can be found, my major qualm with a site like this is that it merely gives an organized platform for glorified name-calling, perpetuating defamation based on one-sided accounts of emotional situations. This site makes human beings into objects to be reviewed and publicly criticized for their private lives. And whatever happened to old-fashioned dating? Why do we need to give everyone a background check before meeting them? Jeesh!
But, in all fairness, I don't think the site aims to be as serious as I am taking it here. Exhibit A: The site's own suggestions for how to use it.
"How are people using ExRated?"
1. Networking through ex-girlfriends who date financial power-players or musicians (if you've been searching for that great drummer to complete your band...).
2. Dating resume - date one model, you can date another, according to George Costanza from Seinfeld.
3. Break a girl's heart, give her a good rating and recommend her to a friend (or "exfriend").
4. Figure out what it is you really want by filling out a form of "why it didn't work with this one."
5. Instead of having to listen to your single friends' constant dating complaints, direct them to the site.
6. Improve people's dating manners by encouraging them to strive for a good rating.
Clearly written by a man.
Natalie Moya | ChaCha Health + Lifestyle